Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder - Reiland, Rachel Review & Synopsis

Synopsis With astonishing honesty, this memoir reveals what mental illness looks and feels like from the inside, and how healing from borderline personality disorder is possible through intensive therapy and the support of loved ones. With astonishing honesty, this memoir, Get Me Out of Here, reveals what mental illness looks and feels like from the inside, and how healing from borderline personality disorder is possible through intensive therapy and the support of loved ones. A mother, wife, and working professional, Reiland was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder at the age of 29--a diagnosis that finally explained her explosive anger, manipulative behaviors, and self-destructive episodes including bouts of anorexia, substance abuse, and promiscuity. A truly riveting read with a hopeful message.Excerpt: "My hidden secrets were not well-concealed. The psychological profile had been right as had the books on BPD. I was manipulative, desperately clinging and prone to tantrums, explosiveness, and frantic acts of desperation when I did not feel the intimacy connection was strong enough. The tough chick loner act of self-reliance was a complete facade." Review Rachel Reiland is a wife, mother of three, accountant, and writer living in the Midwest. Through a combination of psychotherapy and spirituality, she has managed to overcome anorexia and borderline personality disorder, a shadowy and often misunderstood form of mental illness.Touted as the only book of its kind, this is a firsthand account of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). An accountant and mother of three, Reiland (a pseudonym) tells the poignant story of her life, which included all-too-familiar episodes of anorexia, promiscuity, impulsiveness, suicide attempts, institutionalization in a mental hospital, and often unrelenting, anger-intensive, violent, and unpredictable behavior. This is not intended as a text for treatment but a story of how one person lived with and overcame an affliction that many professionals view as untreatable. What results is a gripping, fast-paced narrative that's often hard to put down and will no doubt inspire sufferers and caretakers to march on. It is a story based on stark reality and hope, much like Steve Hamilton's I Want My Life Back. Recommended for all public and academic libraries as a complement to treatment guides like Jerold J. Kreisman and Hal Straus's I Hate You, Don't Leave Me. Melody Ballard, Washoe Cty. Lib. Syst., Reno Copyright 2004 Reed Business Information. (Library Journal) Get Me Out of Here With astonishing honesty, this memoir reveals what mental illness looks and feels like from the inside, and how healing from borderline personality disorder is possible through intensive therapy and the support of loved ones. With astonishing honesty, this memoir, Get Me Out of Here, reveals what mental illness looks and feels like from the inside, and how healing from borderline personality disorder is possible through intensive therapy and the support of loved ones. A mother, wife, and working professional, Reiland was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder at the age of 29--a diagnosis that finally explained her explosive anger, manipulative behaviors, and self-destructive episodes including bouts of anorexia, substance abuse, and promiscuity. A truly riveting read with a hopeful message.Excerpt: "My hidden secrets were not well-concealed. The psychological profile had been right as had the books on BPD. I was manipulative, desperately clinging and prone to tantrums, explosiveness, and frantic acts of desperation when I did not feel the intimacy connection was strong enough. The tough chick loner act of self-reliance was a complete facade." A truly riveting read with a hopeful message.Excerpt: "My hidden secrets were not well-concealed. The psychological profile had been right as had the books on BPD." Stop Walking on Eggshells People with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) challenge those close to them with their often bewildering mood shifts and unpredictable behavior. For those people who have relationships with persons with BPD, whether they be relatives, friends, spouses, parents, or children, this book should prove a godsend. It delineates the ways in which borderline individuals' (BPs) behavior and communications frustrate and perplex those around them but goes further in articulating specific strategies that those close to the person with Borderline Personality Disorder (non-BPs, as they are termed in this book) can effectively cope with these kinds of behaviors. ----Larry J. Siever, M.D. Many people have found the book Toxic Parents : Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life by Susan Forward and Craig Buck helpful in helping them recover from the scars of emotional, verbal, and even physical and sexual ..." Scars That Speak Scars That Speak is the powerful and compelling account of one woman's battle to overcome her abusive childhood and the destructive behaviors and thinking patterns that developed as a result. Rochelle Murray writes with complete honesty as she evaluates her life in light of her past. Full of original poetry, journal writings, and art work, Scars That Speak offers the reader a glimpse into the mind of a woman struggling to triumph over emotional, physical, and sexual abuse. The uniqueness of this book lies in the fact that it was written as her therapy progressed, which allows the reader to walk with Rochelle along her journey. Her story is captivating and poignant, gripping the reader from the outset. Rochelle's therapeutic relationship with a Christian psychologist provided the support that she needed to break free from her addiction to cutting, and enabled her to face her fears and the memories of her childhood. Her scars speak loudly of the fact that the past can be confronted, truth can be discovered, and strength and healing can be attained. This book is so much more than just another book about cutting. - An estimated two million Americans purposefully cut themselves each year - Rochelle used to be among their number. - Her self-destructiveness started when she was sexually abused by her grandfather. - Her narcissistic mother also played a major role in her self-destructive behavior. - Could therapy be the answer? Could she find her voice? Could truth be told? - Join Rochelle on her therapeutic journey as she struggles to find healing and the reward of joy. Moskovitz, Richard.Lost in the Mirror: An Inside Look at Borderline Personality Disorder . 2ndEdition. Lanham, Maryland: Taylor Trade Publishing, 2001. Reiland , Rachel . Get Me Out of Here : My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder ." You Need Help! If you feel that a friend or loved one has a problem and needs professional help, this step-by-step guide will give you the tools to approach, engage, and support him or her. Just about everyone knows a relative, friend, or coworker who is exhibiting signs of emotional or behavioral turmoil. Yet figuring out how to reach out to that person can feel insurmountable. We know it is the right thing to do, yet many of us hesitate to take action out of fear of conflict, hurt feelings, or damaging the relationship. Through a rich combination of user-friendly tools and real-life stories, Mark S. Komrad, MD, offers step-by-step guidance and support as you take the courageous step of helping a friend who might not even recognize that he or she is in need. He guides you in developing a strong course of action, starting by determining when professional help is needed, then moves you through the steps of picking the right time, making the first approach, gathering allies, selecting the right professional, and supporting friends or relatives as they go through the necessary therapeutic process to resolve their problems. Included are scripts based on Komrad’s work with his own patients, designed to help you anticipate next steps and arm you with the tools to respond constructively and compassionately. You will also find the guidance and information needed to understand mental illness and get past the stigma still associated with it, so you can engage and support your loved one with insight and compassion in his or her journey toward emotional stability and health. Contaminated: My Journey Out of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. BarLeDuc, 2007. Reiland , Rachel . Get Me Out of Here : My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder . Hazelden, 2004. Rogers, Barb. If I Die Before I Wake: A Memoir of ..." Gaining If you've ever suffered from an eating disorder-or cared for someone who is anorexic or bulimic-you may think you understand these illnesses. But do you really understand why they occur? Do you know what it takes to fully recover? Do you know how eating disorders affect life after recovery? Now, nearly three decades after she detailed her first battle with anorexia in Solitaire, Aimee Liu presents an emotionally powerful and poignant sequel that digs deep into the causes, cures, and consequences of anorexia and bulimia nervosa. Aimee Liu believed she had conquered anorexia in her twenties. Then in her forties, when her life once again began spiraling out of control, she stopped eating. Liu realized the same forces that had caused her original eating disorder were still in play. She also noticed that other women she knew with histories of anorexia and bulimia seemed to share many of her personality traits and habits under stress-even decades after "recovery." Intrigued and concerned, Liu set out to learn who is susceptible to these disorders and why, and what it takes to overcome them once and for all. With GAINING, Liu shatters commonly held beliefs about eating disorders while assembling a puzzle that is as complex and fascinating as human identity itself. Through cutting-edge research and the stories of more than forty interview subjects, readers will discover that the tendency to develop anorexia or bulimia has little to do with culture, class, gender-or weight. Genetics, however, play a key role. So does temperament. So do anxiety, depression, and shame. Clearly, curing eating disorders involves more than good nutrition. Candidly recalling her own struggles, triumphs, and defeats, Aimee explores an array of promising and innovative new treatments, offers vital insights to anyone who has ever had an eating disorder, and shows parents how to help protect their children from ever developing one. Her book is sure to change the way we talk and think about eating disorders for years to come. The Truth About Life After Eating Disorders Aimee Liu. (April 2000): 353–57. Maychick, Diana. ... Reiland , Rachel . Get Me Out of Here : My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder . Center City, MN: Hazelden, 2004. Reindl, Sheila." The Virtue of Defiance and Psychiatric Engagement What is defiance, and when does defiant behaviour impede one's ability to aim at flourishing? People who are defiant can present perplexing challenges etiologically, diagnostically, and responsively. But in order to understand accurately when defiant behaviour is good, or bad, or neither (when it emerges out of mental illness), a fresh perspective on defiance is needed. This book offers a nuanced and complex look at defiance, taking seriously issues of dysfunction while also attending to social contexts in which defiant behaviour may arise. Those living in adverse conditions such as oppression, systematic disadvantages, and disability may act defiantly for good reasons. This perspective places defiance squarely within the moral domain; thus, it should not be assumed that when professionals come across defiant behaviour, it is a sign of mental dysfunction. Potter argues that defiance sometimes is a virtue, meaning that a disposition to be ready to be defiant when the situation calls for it is part of living a life with a realistic understanding of the aim of flourishing and its limits in our everyday world. Her work also offers theoretical work on problems in knowing that can impede understanding and responsiveness to those who are, or seem to be, defiant. Clinicians, teachers, social workers, nurses, and others working in helping professions are invited to engage in different ways with defiance so as to better understand and respond to people who express that defiance. Case studies, a framework for differentiating different forms of defiance, a realistic picture of phronesis-practical reasoning-and an explanation of how to give uptake well are some of the topics covered. The voices of service users strengthen the author's claims that defiance that is grounded in phronesis is just as much a part of moral life for those living with mental disabilities as for anyone else. State and trait in personality disorders. Annals of Clinical Psychiatry 19 (1):37–44. Reiland , Rachel . 2004. Get me out of here : My recovery from borderline personality disorder . Center City, MN: Hazelden Foundation. Rich, Adrienne." Women and Madness Feminist icon Phyllis Chesler's pioneering work, Women and Madness, remains startlingly relevant today, nearly fifty years since its first publication in 1972. With over 2.5 million copies sold, this landmark book is unanimously regarded as the definitive work on the subject of women's psychology. Now back in print, this completely revised and updated edition adds perspectives on eating disorders, postpartum depression, biological psychology, important feminist political findings, female genital mutilation, and more. Reiland , Rachel . Get Me Out Of Here : My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder . Minnesota: Hazelden Publishing and Educational Services, 2004. Rickhi, Badri, Hude Quan, Sabine Moritz, Dipl Biol, Heather L. Stuart, ..." Borderline Personality Disorder in Adolescents "Families and their children with BPD will find this book a very useful guide as they struggle together toward a more fully realized life."—Mary C. Zanarini, Ed.D., Director, Laboratory for the Study of Adult Development, McLean Hospital and Professor of Psychology, Harvard Medical School "A must-have book for every parent with a borderline child."—Randi Kreger, Coauthor of Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care about Has Borderline Personality Disorder "Borderline Personality Disorder in Adolescents is a long overdue book that eloquently and expertly addresses the wide-ranging issues surrounding borderline personality disorder in adolescents. This compassionate book is a must for parents with children suffering from borderline personality disorder, as well as clinicians, educators, pediatricians, and clergy trying to understand and help adolescents with this serious, chronic disorder."—Perry D. Hoffman, Ph.D., President, National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder Borderline Personality Disorder in Adolescents offers parents, caregivers, and adolescents themselves a complete understanding of this complex and tough-to-treat disorder. This comprehensive guide thoroughly explains what BPD is and what a patient's treatment options are, including the revolutionary new treatment called dialectic behavior therapy. Author Blaise A. Aguirre, M.D., one of the foremost experts in the field, describes recent advances in treatments and brings into focus what we do and don't know about this condition. Readers will learn the differences between BPD and other adolescent psychiatric diagnoses; treatment options (e.g., medication and therapy); how to choose the right therapist; how to determine when inpatient treatment is necessary; how to enforce boundaries; how to take care of and protect yourself; and practical techniques for effective communication with those who have BPD. A Complete Guide to Understanding and Coping When Your Adolescent has BPD Blaise Aguirre ... PhD Get Me Out of Here : My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder by Rachel Reiland Siren's Dance: My Marriage to a Borderline: A Case ..." Self-Help That Works Self-help is big business, but alas, not always a scientific one. Self-help books, websites, and movies abound and are important sources of psychological advice for millions of Americans. But how can you sift through them to find the ones that work? Self-Help That Works is an indispensable guide that enables readers to identify effective self-help materials and distinguish them from those that are potentially misleading or even harmful. Six scientist-practitioners bring careful research, expertise, and a dozen national studies to the task of choosing and recommending self-help resources. Designed for both laypersons and mental-health professionals, this book critically reviews multiple types of self-help resources, from books and autobiographies to films, online programs, support groups, and websites, for 41 different behavioral disorders and life challenges. The revised edition of this award-winning book now features online self-help resources, expanded content, and new chapters focusing on autism, bullying, chronic pain, GLB issues, happiness, and nonchemical addictions. Each chapter updates the self-help resources launched since the previous edition and expands the material. The final chapters provide key strategies for consumers evaluating self-help as well as for professionals integrating self-help into treatment. All told, this updated edition of Self-Help that Works evaluates more than 2,000 self-help resources and brings together the collective wisdom of nearly 5,000 mental health professionals. Whether seeking self-help for yourself, loved ones, or patients, this is the go-to, research-based guide with the best advice on what works. The Buddha and the Borderline : My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder through Dialectical Behavior Therapy , Buddhism , and Online Dating (2010) by Kiera Van Gelder . Oakland, CA: New Harbinger. Clearly acknowledging how BPD ..." Shadows in the Sun Presents a first-of-its-kind, cross-cultural lens to mental illness through the inspiring story of Gayathri’s thirty-year battle with depression. This literary memoir takes readers from her childhood in India where depression is thought to be a curse to life in America where she eventually finds the light within by drawing on both her rich Hindu heritage and Western medicine to spare. As a young girl in Bangalore, Gayathri was surrounded by the fragrance of jasmine and flickering oil lamps, her family protected by Hindu gods and goddesses. But as she grew older, demons came forth from the dark corners of her idyllic kingdom--with the scariest creatures lurking within her.The daughter of a respected Brahmin family, Gayathri began to feel different. "I can hardly eat, sleep, or think straight. The only thing I can do is cry unending tears." Her parents insisted it was all in her head. Because traditional Indian culture had no concept of depression as an illness, no doctor could diagnose and no medicine could heal her mysterious malady.This memoir traces Gayathri's courageous battle with the depression that consumed her from adolescence through marriage and a move to the United States. It was only after the birth of her first child, when her husband discovered her in the backyard "clawing the earth furiously with my bare hands, intent on digging a grave so that I could bury myself alive," that she finally found help. After a stay in a psych ward she eventually found "the light within," an emotional and spiritual awakening from the darkness of her tortured mind.Gayathri's inspiring story provides a first-of-its-kind cross-cultural view of mental illness--how it is regarded in India and in America, and how she drew on both her rich Hindu heritage and Western medicine to find healing. ALSO OF INTEREST A Legacy of Madness Recovering My Family from Generations of Mental Illness TOM DAVIS The story of a ... 2698; ebook E2698 Get Me Out of Here My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder RACHEL REILAND A mother, ..." From Happiness to Tragedy; To Bliss on the Borderline Bewildered, she exclaimed, “Did she have psychological problems?” I was stunned. I had just told my real estate agent I was selling my house because my wife left me nine months ago. A few years ago, we bought a house in the Akron area. My wife rode around town with this real estate agent looking for a home. When I told the agent she had left me, the she said, “She talked you up so well, I honestly believed she thought you were a god!” I replied, “I used to be, but now I’m a demon from Hades.” Neither me or my wife had spoken to this agent before or since she sold us our house. That’s just a small sample of the paradox I had lived the previous twelve years. My first wife died, suddenly, leaving me alone with our seven year old boy. A year later, I married my second wife. Now, my second period of grieving was to begin. Through the course of the following pages you will cruise along the path of a man who laments the loss of his first wife and tries to make sense of life in general. Suddenly however, in the midst of the book, his present wife leaves him. This devastation twists the book into a peculiar direction as he expresses his grief in the loss of his second wife, then in Part III, tells his story of the agonies involved in living with a Borderline wife. In Part IV, the book produces evidence that convinces him she has Borderline Personality Disorder, then elaborates further on how it affected him and his son. Finally, in Part V, as an afterthought, he discusses the fact that he may be narcissistic after all and this narcissism may have drawn him to his BPD wife and helps explain how they stayed together for so long. Itisironic, when my second wife left methe final time, she took out a $60k loan in my name and left. ... Rachel Reiland , Get Me Out of Here : My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder (Center City, MN: Eggshells Press, 2002). 58." The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder "Randi Kreger has done it again! With her new book, she continues to make the dynamics of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) readily accessible to those of us who love, live with and treat people who suffer from this complex condition." Blaise Aguirre, MD, Medical Director, Adolescent Dialectical Behavior Therapy Residential Program, McLean Hospital "Kreger's communication techniques, grounded in the latest research, provide family members with the essential ability to regain a genuine, meaningful relationship with their loved one with Borderline Personality Disorder." Debra Resnick, Psy.D., President, Psychological Services and Human Development Center "This book offers hope for those who think their situation has none." Rachel Reiland, author of Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder For family members of people with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), home life is routinely unpredictable and frequently unbearable. Extreme mood swings, impulsive behaviors, unfair blaming and criticism, and suicidal tendencies common conduct among those who suffer from the disorder leave family members feeling confused, hurt, and helpless. In Stop Walking on Eggshells, Randi Kreger's pioneering first book which sold more than 340,000 copies, she and co-author Paul T. Mason outlined the fundamental differences in the way that people with BPD relate to the world. Now, with The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder, Kreger takes readers to the next level by offering them five straightforward tools to organize their thinking, learn specific skills, and focus on what they need to do to get off the emotional rollercoaster: Take care of yourself Uncover what keeps you feeling stuck Communicate to be heard Set limits with love Reinforce the right behaviors Together the steps provide a clear-cut system designed to help friends and family reduce stress, improve their relationship with their borderline loved one, improve their problem-solving skills and minimize conflict, and feel more self-assured about setting limits. Randi Kreger is the co-author of Stop Walking on Eggshells and the author of The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook. She operates bpdcentral.com, one of the top web-based resources for those living with BPD, and runs the Welcome to Oz online family support groups based at her web site. Cofounder of the Personality Disorder Awareness Network, Kreger is frequently invited to lecture on BPD and related issues, both for clinicians and laypeople. Now, with The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder, Kreger takes readers to the next level by offering them five straightforward tools to organize their thinking, learn specific skills, and focus on what they need to do ..." Fresh Perspectives: Introduction to Psychology chapter 8 personality and the self introduction to personality and the self Personality 1 : Rachel Reiland was a twenty ... here : My recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder , Rachel Reiland , 2004 Manipulative means that you ..." Rewind Replay Repeat The revealing story of one man's struggle with obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) and his hard-won recovery. Rewind, Replay, Repeat is the revealing story of Jeff Bell's struggle with obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) and his hard-won recovery. Nagging doubt: It's a part of everyday life. Who hasn't doubled back to check on a door or appliance? But what if one check wasn't enough? Nor two or three? And what if nagging doubt grew so intense that physical senses became all but useless? Such was the case for Bell, a husband, father, and highly successful radio news anchor--and one of the millions of Americans living with obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). His fascinating memoir recounts the depths to which this debilitating anxiety disorder reduced him--to driving his car in continuous circles, scouring his hands in scalding water, and endlessly rewinding, replaying, and repeating in his head even the most mundane daily experiences. Readers will learn what OCD feels like from the inside, and how healing from such a devastating condition is possible through therapy, determination, and the support of loved ones. Other titles that may interest you: Get Me Out of Here My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder Rachel Reiland A mother, wife, and working professional, Reiland was diagnosed with BPD at age twentynine—which finally explained ..." In Recovery: Stories of healing from mental illness In Recovery recounts the stories of twelve amazing people who have struggled with mental illness and have come out stronger on the other side. Some participants have been in recovery for years while others are newer to wellness. Each participant defines success in a different way. Lauren is a professional athlete competing at the top of her sport as a member of the Ultimate Fighting Championship league, while Ali has found success in living life on a ranch with her terminally ill husband. Success looks different for everyone and one story does not fit all. This book is meant to inspire people who have or are currently struggling with mental illness. In the midst of mental illness, seeing a light at the end of the tunnel is possible. With this book, readers will learn that hope and recovery are real. Here are the books participants found helpful for their recovery : General Psychology 1. ... “ Get Me Out of Here : My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder ” by Rachel Reiland Cognitive Behavioral Therapy 1." One Foot in Front of the Other Recovery—whether from addictive or compulsive behaviors, codependency, childhood trauma, dysfunction or loss—is not an event to be conquered, but an ongoing process of healing and self-discovery. It requires patience, perseverance, and self-awareness. Putting one foot in front of the other, moment-by-moment and day-by-day, builds courage, self-esteem, and resilience. A key component of staying on the right path is guidance from those who have walked it before. One Foot in Front of the Other gives readers a hand to hold as they face the challenges of living and provides a wellspring of knowledge from which to draw inspiration, and hope. Nationally renowned trauma and recovery expert Dr. Tian Dayton gives readers all the tools they will need on their journey of recovery, just as she has for countless of her own patients. Written in the 'I' format, each page speaks intimately to readers, offering straightforward and user-friendly wisdom through inspired readings. This powerful little book will help readers examine their lives and recapture feelings of gratitude and positivity opening to the grace of self-renewal. ... to keep seeking love, and your resourcefulness to make that love last long enough to sustain you. That is what has gotten you by. — Rachel Reiland , Get Me Out of Here : My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder DECEMBER 12 ..." Alien Landscapes? Do people with mental disorders share enough psychology with other people to make human interpretation possible? Jonathan Glover tackles the hard cases—violent criminals, people with delusions, autism, schizophrenia—to answer affirmatively. He offers values linked with agency and identity to guide how the boundaries of psychiatry should be drawn. I hate myself .I'mcrazy. It would really surprise himthat once upon a time I used to be somebody, I used to accomplish things. — Rachel Reiland , Get Me Out of Here : My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder Some of the men ..." The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook The symptoms of borderline personality disorder (BPD) include severe mood shifts, unfounded accusations and wildly inappropriate displays of anger, a range of self-destructive behaviors, and frantic efforts to avoid abandonment. For the friends and families of people with BPD, The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook supports and reinforces the ideas in its partner book Stop Walking on Eggshells. The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook can be used by itself, or as an accompaniment to the first book. A practical guide to successfully navigating life with someone with BPD, it’s chock full of worksheets, checklists, and exercises to help them apply what they’ve learned to their own relationship. It includes a form to help to fill in when looking for a clinician, a list of phrases to use, and a glossary of BPD-related terms. The book is easy to read and right to the point. ... Unpredictable, and Volatile Relationship (2000); and Susan Forward and Donna Frazier , especially their book Emotional Blackmail : When the People in Your Life Use Fear , Obligation and Guilt to Manipulate You (1997)." 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